“Has it sunken in yet”? That is the question we have been getting a lot lately as we are coming down the home stretch of being only months away from the ringing of wedding bells. As every newly engaged couple gets, we get the rundown of questions every time it’s been two weeks since we’ve seen someone at Miller’s Alehouse. conversations usually go something like this: “Hi! How are you? Have you set a date yet? Oh my God, that’s so exciting! How many people are you inviting? Have you picked your theme? Are you ready? Has it sunken it yet”?
Seeing as though it is a “My Life Monday” I felt it was appropriate to answer the many interrogative posed to us as we are turning the corner into marriagehood (not a real word). The 14 month engagement all comes to a close as a new anniversary is born on The Seventeenth Day of June in the Year 2011 (I tried to write it fancy like some people do on their invitations). Danielle andf I both have huge families and lots of mutual friends. However, we set a few rules for ourselves to keep the wedding to people we love and want to be there for us on that day.
One rule we like was that we didn’t want to both be introduced to anyone at the wedding. If after four years we still haven’t met people of supposed importance then there is a good chance that they aren’t “too close” to one of us and therefore, they don’t “need” an invite. Unless of course they have deep pockets and in that case I will disinvite one of my friends my taking him to lunch. Also, with close friends being invited we limited their “+ 1s” to needing a six month dating requirement. There are plenty of people we would love to have at the wedding but can’t invite due to Roman Numerals. We don’t want people bringing “+ 1s” who we could care less about and who are just there to take advantage of the open bar and re-gift us a gift card they’ll never use.
Now, the next most popular thing we are asked is what our theme is. The theme is my favorite part of the wedding. Danielle and I are both very casual people. It is outdoor summer night wedding so it will be cool at night but at the same time we don’t want people wearing gowns and tuxedos with tails and tophats. We want people to be as comfortable as possible (I tried pulling for basketball shorts but the warden shut that down quick) so the mens attire will be light summer suits and “linen shorts so my balls don’t get hot.” (1:16)
I could really care less what the women wear and I don’t think that will be an issue. When we were discussing the kind of wedding we wanted to have it was an easy compromise. We both wanted good people, good music, and good food. Danielle wanted rustic/vintage and I wanted a tailgate/BBQ. So what we both wanted was possible and “we met halfway right at the borderline is where we’re gonna wait for you.”
Right now I’m working on getting beer pong tables signed off on but don’t hold me to it. I’m trying to position them as “cute” beer pong tables that will match the “vintagey” theme of the wedding as it would be fun to watch Grandparents try to play flip cup.
There is no question that both of us are ready but I don’t believe it has really sunken in for us yet. We have made tons of plans, gone through tons of save the dates/invites, booked plenty of transportation, but we haven’t really seen the effects of the planning and picking yet. I think once the house shopping begins and the parties/showers start rolling in over the next few months, that is when it will really begin to feel like we’re getting married.
Only because it’s not like much has really changed in our daily lives as of now. We still reside in our respective residences, we haven’t bought all of the pending furniture yet, and now it is kind of just a waiting game. We both are really excited for all the happenings that will occur over the next few months. Danielle is excited to see it all done and I am excited for all the envelopes and cool appliances because our church pre-marital counselor’s test said “I feel loved when I’m given things.” (cough Tri-Kegerator cough)
Now, that I am conveniently on that topic we are registered at NBA.com, Macy’s, Bed Bath and Beyond, and are opening a Bank of America account to make gift deposits into if anyone would like to get me any birthday presents (only 3 weeks away).
That pretty much covers the basics as we obviously want to leave some things to the imagination. If you girls are looking for more insight into what the wedding will look like (because us guys don’t really give a shit) you can go to http://greenweddingshoes.com. That website has been like Danielle’s wedding Bible and she checks it more than she checks her voicemail and/or text messages (which she reluctantly apologizes for).